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This week has been a big one in my house! I got a “competent” mark on my coaching model and visual for my ICA assessments, my written exam for ICA came back with a 98% on it AND my husband accepted a new job in the Omaha area. So we’ll be moving from Wisconsin to Omaha before schools start there on August 13!
Since getting the news of the Omaha move, I’ve been using all of the power tools from the coach training …. Trust vs Doubt, Game vs Significance, etc ….. Is there one that focuses on Sleep vs Obsess … 
Ultimately, I am grateful for the opportunity that this brings into our lives. I am trusting the process and I am committed to making the time aspect of the whole move a game. I am truly looking forward to what life in Omaha holds for me and my family!
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After completing the questionaire on www.strengthsfinder.com, I discovered that my “top 5 themes” are:
Maximizer: focuses on strengths as a way to stimulate personal and group excellence, seeks to transform something strong into something superb.
Connectedness: has faith in the links between all things, believes there are few coincidences and that almost every event has a reason.
Relator: enjoys close relationships with others, finds deep satisfaction in working hard with friends to achieve a goal.
Intellection: characterized by their intellectual activity, are introspective and appreciate intellectual discussions.
Input: has a craving to know more, often likes to collect and archive all kinds of information.
**All of these definitions come directly from the “Strengths Discovery & Action-Planning Guide” I was able to print off after taking the test. This document also describes how I, as a Maximizer, am different than other Maximizers based on my answers overall. It offers quotes from people in my themes, which tell me what these themes sound like. And it also provides some suggested action-plan items to consider in order to focus on these themes.
I really enjoyed the entire process. In reading the information listed for each theme I was not necessarily surprised with what it told me about myself however it was useful to see it all in one place for me. It made me feel as though my work in living a more mindful life has really been paying off in being more in tune with who I am, actually. It will be a really useful tool to reference back to if I am feeling some imbalance in life. It will allow me to reflect on whether or not one of my themes has been ignored lately.
Now I will be able to knowingly suggest this tool to my clients who need some guidance in reflecting on their own strengths. I guess that is just either my Intellection or Input theme showing up again!
It’s funny how difficult people find it to list their own talents, skills & strengths. As if being aware of what you are good at is something to be ashamed of. Is it a lack of confidence? Low self-esteem? I’ve seen this with the client focus form I use with my clients to prepare for their next coaching session, which asks them to list accomplishments toward their goal AND the skill/talent that it took to accomplish it. The purpose being to get them focusing on their strengths as a way of life – another step toward mindful living. It proves to be a challenge for many to answer this.
A tool I use with the clients who find it a challenge is simply writing a list of what their personal assets are – skills, talents, strengths. When this is difficult to start, I encourage them to either consider something they are proud of accomplishing and how they were able to do that or think about what others say are their personal assets. However it is important that they also write down some from their own thoughts.
When even this proves to be difficult, a really useful tool is to encourage them to buy “Strengths Finder 2.0″ by Tom Rath. There is an online questionaire that you complete and it tells you what your strengths are based on that – they refer to them as your “Top 5 Themes”. Not only that, it also tells you how you are different than other folks within your top themes AND offers you an action plan of how to work within those themes.
You do need to buy the book because there is a specific code in the book that you will need to access the questionaire. Also, the code is only good for 1 individual ….. so don’t buy it used unless you confirm that the code packet has not been cut open and/or the magic silvery stuff hasn’t been scratched off to reveal the code.
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Part III of “Change The Way You See Everything Through Asset-Based Thinking” by Kathryn D. Cramer, Ph.D and Hank Wasiak discusses methods to change the way you see situations. They point out the fact that when we have feelings of anxiety when presented with challenges, while normal initially, they are also very limiting. These feelings tend to hold us to a narrow perspective and keep us from recognizing all of the possibilities that come along with such experiences. Here are some of the ideas to open yourself up to the situation:
- “The Wider the Lens, the Better the View”: By staying open to every possible detail of a situation, you’ll have more options to work with. Your internal dialogue regarding challenges influences not only your personal perception, it also forms your interactions with others.
- Reframe your perspective of something being a threat (harmful) to a challenge (growth).
- Remember the power of focusing on slowing down your breathing. It calms you and will facilitate “Asset-based thinking”.
- “See the problem as a pause”: See it in slow motion and you will be able to get a better understanding of what is going on. Don’t get overwhelmed by the situation or problem, instead focus on the goal and keep moving toward it.
- Reverse the 80-20 rule by focusing “80% of your attention on opportunities and 20% correcting what’s wrong”.
- Create visions of what you want your life to look like. With this vision in mind, you’ll have a greater sense of purpose as you move toward having what you want.
- “Laws of Attraction”: Use your positive thoughts, actions and words to attract other like-minded people. This will make your “circle of influence” a fantastic resource to draw from in any situation. Surround yourself with people who inspire you.
When you are able to look at a situation with endless possibilities and as a way to grow, you can have whatever you want. Absolute freedom!
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In taking a look at the next idea in “Change The Way You See Everything Through Asset-Based Thinking” by Kathryn D. Cramer, Ph.D and Hank Wasiak, you can change the way you see others. They include considering:
- “Use your positive filters, get more traction” where we get back into the mindset of looking at everyone we encounter as having something positive to offer, even through their negativity. We are all merely a work in progress. Acknowledging others “out loud and often” when they do something positive and remembering those things as your relationship grows over time.
- Looking at conflict as an opportunity to change your mind. Consider both sides of the issue as being true at the same time to eliminate any defensiveness and inspire curiosity. Working to create a truth that both sides can agree on.
- Recognize that each of us has behaviors that are less than desirable however we are still worth having a relationship with. Focus on the person’s strengths and what you like about them.
- “Tell the truth fast”: When approaching a conversation you think may be difficult, create a “healthier dialogue” by being clear and concise about what is bothering you; tell the person how it is affecting you and your relationship with that person; and, offer the “positive vision” you have for resolving it.
- When you look at a person, have your first thought be what you like about them. It can be anything from the dress they are wearing to the story a friend told you about their passion for rescuing dogs from bad situations. Have this be your thought before you even begin speaking with them.
- When you see a trait in someone that you admire, imitate it. “As a student of the assets of human nature, you are now ready to spot the best of what anyone has to offer.”
- Consider asking someone “How did you do that?” rather than “Why did you do that?” See the difference in tone ……
When we are able to look at others in a positive light from the get go and really open up to someone else’s thoughts on a particular issue, we open ourselves up to really growing as individuals. Challenging others to consider a different way of looking at someone is often met with resistance however it doesn’t mean we should give up!
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Even us optimists; who see the world in the best light, give everyone the benefit of the doubt; and, assume that all will be right in the end; can have trouble with extending the same feelings to ourselves. The book “Change the Way You See Everything Through Asset-Based Thinking” by Kathryn D Cramer, Ph. D and Hank Wasiak gives practical exercises to do just that. It includes such exercises as:
- Reflecting on what you accomplished each week and the talents and skills you used to do so.
- “Magnify What’s Best and Focus on What’s Next” encourages you to revert back to thinking of things the way a child does, instinctively.
- Realize you are perfect just as you are today. We are always growing and learning.
- Thinking of 5 personal assets you have and 1 deficit that hinders your effectiveness. Then determine how your assets can help you through a current challenge or opportunity. This is “the five to one rule” and it facilitates your growth.
- Have a vision based on passion.
All of these things help a person focus on their strengths rather than their weaknesses. They empower you to take control of your life rather than just letting it happen. We have the choice and choices give us freedom! Mindful Living – deliberately choosing what we bring into our lives and what we choose to eliminate from our lives.
Take your positive thinking and attitude to the next level! Check out www.assetbasedthinking.com which is the website related to the book “Change The Way You See Everything” by Kathryn D. Cramer, Ph.D and Hank Wasiak.
They have fantastic ideas about making positive thinking (asset-based thinking) your automatic way of looking at yourself, others and situations. The book has exercises, of sorts, to get your mind to think that way always. I’ve taken some of these ideas and made them my own for my life coach practice to get my clients to focus on their accomplishments and the skills and talents it took to acheive them. Creating an environment of empowerment.
In establishing more specifics regarding my Simplification Coaching practice, I decided to define some powerful terms I plan to use frequently.
Mindful Living: Deliberately choosing what you allow into your life and what you choose to eliminate from your life.
Simplify: Breaking something down into smaller and more manageable pieces.
Balance: Just the right amount of life energy being applied to each valued aspect of your life.
Imbalance: When one or more aspect of your life is requiring more of your life energy than you would like it to, causing you stress or discomfort of some sort.
Role of coach: To ask powerful questions that allow the client to shift perspective, clarify their vision/goals, discover their own creativity and resourcefulness and move forward toward the life they truly want.
